They represented a dry humor than aligns with my own.
For OKC, I chose my initials punctuated by underscores, and tended to prefer equally minimalistic, cryptic self-representations, as opposed to, say, song lyrics or anything with “Brooklyn” affixed to it.
I was curious about whether my tendency to critique usernames more harshly than photos was universal, and decided to speak with a linguist about whether or not the language of our online dating avatars says something about who we are.
, a book that uses data from the dating site to draw conclusions about message language, message length, depressing discrepancies between male and female age preferences, and more.
But he concluded that from a data standpoint, usernames are too unique to draw specific conclusions.
“There’s too much variety in the names to really get a sense of whether one particular one affects incoming messages,” he told me in an email.
“There are certainly trends -- people append the word 'taco' a lot, but that’s because we suggest it, kind of as a joke.
And of course there is the birth year suffix -- cuteguy1975, for example.”Rudder is right. Unlike gender or income level, there are limitless options and combinations of traits.
But, another data-driven researcher I spoke with, Susan Herring, a professor of information science and linguistics at Indiana University, found the question intriguing.
I’ve swiped, I’ve messaged, I’ve boldly gone where no right-thinking relationship-seeker has gone before (to see a vampire movie on a first date), all in the name of finding love, or at least a cool guy to hang out with.
To this end I’ve been more successful, or perhaps luckier, than my friends.
On my fourth or fifth date arranged through OKCupid I met my current boyfriend, who happens to be the most communicative, fun, and kind person I’ve met, online or off.