But the new research from Michican suggests that 86 per cent of online daters were concerned that profiles contained false information suggesting that trust may have been damaged at an early stage in the relationship.
The study was published in the online journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking.
If you think that simply having posted an online dating profile means that someone is ready for a relationship, you’re wrong.
Dating with Dignity has compiled a list of what to look for in an online dating profile so you can tell who’s relationship-ready. That said, if someone has listed what they’re looking for as “new friends” or “activity partners,” chances are they’re not looking for a serious relationship.
However, it’s important to look closely for other clues as some members may put “looking for relationship” because he/she thinks that will render better results.
I remember a client who was so surprised that the guy she was dating told her he wasn’t looking for a relationship and just wanted to have “fun.” When she looked back at his profile after they’d stopped dating, she checked the “looking for” section and it actually said he was looking for a long-term “relationship.” So, where did she go wrong?
Unfortunately, she ignored some of the language within his “about me” section that talked about looking for someone to explore the city with, noting that he was “fine” if it leads to something more!
Typically (and this is especially true of those who are dating online) men will say what they mean and mean what they say.
When it comes to online dating, there’s always a chance that someone who put that they’re looking for someone to spend forever with doesn’t always mean it; but it can be a better choice than someone who says they’re looking for “fun late nights” or “short-term/casual dating.” In short, read carefully and be realistic. Often members of online dating sites will give a little glimpse of their relationship history to people who stop by their profiles, offering hints about their past.
No matter how attractive he or she is, explore getting to know who she/he really is rather than making decisions based on his/her potential! If someone has written that they just got out of a “painful five-year on-and-off relationship” that they’re still getting over, they MAY not be in the right state to begin a new relationship anytime soon.
While we applaud them for getting themselves out there, a person who describes their status as “newly single” or “ready for a new relationship after an amicable divorce” is going to be a better choice.
“Even though a large percentage of marriages in recent years have resulted from couples meeting online, looking for partners online may potentially suppress the desire for getting married,” said report author Dr Aditi Paul.
“Furthermore the breakup rates for both marital and non-marital romantic relationship were found to be higher for couples who met online that couples who met through offline venues.” The findings contradict a report from the University of Chicago which suggested that online relationships were stronger.
That study was funded by the dating site e Harmony.