In the hours after, it’s natural to replay every minute of the date, asking yourself whether you did and said the right things and if you think there’s a mutual attraction.
Anyway, the more important question is, how do you feel about them? Contacting them the same day or evening is perfect because chances are, they’re having all the same thoughts and worries that you are.
The sooner you make contact, the sooner you can both establish whether or not you want to see each other again.
A short text message or email is perfectly acceptable.
Firstly thank the person for coming to meet you and then be honest about if you’d like to see them again.
Preparing for it can take a lot of time, but have you prepared for what happens afterwards as well?
A lot of emotional energy is invested in going on a first date.
No matter how laid back you are, or how many times you’ve been on first dates before, it’s natural to hope that this will be the last first date you go on if you’ve found the right match for you.
The hope and expectation coupled with the emotional vulnerability that comes whenever you risk rejection means that you should make provisions for after the date too.
This ensures that no matter whether your date goes well or badly, you’re not leaving yourself exposed and open to self sabotage.
Debriefing It’s a good idea to arrange to call a friend after your date.
This is important both in terms of personal safety and making sure you’ve got someone to talk to about what happened.