I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.
There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.
When it comes to sending messages many people freak out.
They want to say online dating sites give you profiles to work with.
Thus making an introduction easier and far less intimidating.
If rejection happens it’s not as personal or awkward (usually).
The format is simple: Here are a few examples: Though the message is short, it creates a commonality and allows for a dialogue to easily start.
Of course, finding your own tone and voice will definitely help too.Good luck out there, and may the words be with you![image: via Joi Ito on flickr] Ready for conscious, like-minded individuals you really want to meet?Here’s the deal with the messaging thing, a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Others try pick-up-artist “negging.” Some send ridiculously long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they’re currently doing with their lives.Some guys think that it’s cool to copy and paste and throw out a message like bait in a lake full of carp. I’d like to say there’s no right or wrong way to message someone (everyone usually has something that works for them), but there is definitely a better way.Too short and they go in the pile of “ If you’re looking for an authentic committed relationship, something a bit more fleeting, someone to go out on adventures with or someone to come over at night for Netflix binges, know your own wants and desires.