A podcast listener named Nathan writes in to ask: “Is online Christian dating a good way to meet a future spouse if you don’t meet anyone through your church family?” I say that the biblical issue here is not how you meet, but whom you marry. Let’s just get this clear and then I will circle around to the other.
What they will want is not just a marriage that is minimally Christian, but a Christian marriage.
And a Christian marriage is described in Ephesians five like this.
Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church.
And husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.
Now what this means is a Christian woman won’t just look for a man who has a cross tattooed on his shoulder, but a man who is ready to die daily in the sacrificial calling of leading a home.
Love as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.And a Christian man won’t just look for a woman who wears a cross around her neck, but is willing to die as she submits to his leadership in reliance upon Christ.Both husband and wife are engaged in constant self denial as they live out the beauty of the Christian marriage.Jesus said no one can be his disciple unless they take up their cross and follow him. If you know what you are looking for the way I have tried to describe it, I would think you could rule out a lot of losers by using the Internet.The Christian man or woman who wants to marry a follower of Jesus must look for a spouse who has learned what it is to die to self in allegiance to Jesus. It won’t take long to learn from Facebook and Twitter and blogs if this man or woman is passionate for Jesus or if Jesus is an incidental mark on the shoulder or a trinket around the neck.Then, if contact happens there are great questions to ask. I don’t know, Tony, you might want to link to this document.