I’m one of your twitter followers and I’ve debated about this issue for awhile now…I read your advice posts on your website and they are so helpful so here I am.
My husband and I have been together what will be 6 years in March..we’ve been married 5 months now. Well he started back up joining those sites again and yes once again I flipped.said he doesn’t know why he’s doing it.these you have to pay and I know he hasn’t obtained a membership…I guess its a curiosity thing?
Everything between him and I has been good until 2010. But why do you feel the need to do that when you have me at home whose willing to give you everything you need and want?
Well some things happened while he was gone and I found out about it. I called him out and told him this was enough.he doesn’t get right I’m moving back to North Carolina.
Granted I was hurt because I was stressed as well dealing with my father’s sudden medical condition and him later passing away. “He said I don’t want to jeopardize my family I learned my lesson baby i’m sorry”…I want to believe him and we never had problems like this until 2010.
I tried my best to hold everything in but I also found out he was signing up for those websites to meet other women. Now its to the point of damn what am I doing wrong as a woman?
So Eventually I grew tired of it and called him out on his bullshit. I know i’m not a size “2” hell i’m 5’5 and right now a good 207.
When we met I was what 165 hell that was back in 06 though and my weight was never an issue…every time we have an issue like this I think about everything that went down and its like what the hell…am i boring?
I try to spice things up.sex life is great.in the back of my mind I wonder about it. Many people use those sites to find people to cheat with because they don’t require building substantial relationships; most folks meet just to fuck or keep something casual going.He hasn’t cheated on me but with him looking at these sites I’m wondering if hes thinking about it. Continuing on, you even thinking about yourself in terms of your looks and questioning yourself as a woman because HE is doing these things is hurting my spirit. His focus on jeopardizing his family seems to take precedence over “I’m going to be a faithful husband because I only want to be with you”.First, thank you for reading the blog and following me on Twitter. One of the things women have to understand is that MOST cheating done by men, in MY opinion, has nothing to do with their girlfriends/wives. This is why I know he’s already cheated and that you’re just unaware.It’s purely about their own desires that they seek to fulfill in addition to the happiness they have at home. You finding out about those sites and thinking he hasn’t paid for them doesn’t mean he hasn’t cheated. He is staying with you to keep the family together and seems to have reached the obligation stage of his relationship with you.Women tend to cheat in response to emotional neglect while men tend to cheat for purely physical reasons. You held him down while he was away, birthed his babies, and he is cheating on you. It seems pretty clear to me that he isn’t in love with you anymore. You’d be surprised how often men stay with their wives because they fear splitting will mean losing access to their kids and the like.Let me ask you: How many times will you discover him on these sites before you allow yourself to believe that he’s basically done with his commitment to your relationship?