And of those people, it's likely that at least one will come around, and say, "Hey, I understand there's a risk, but I'm crazy about you, so I'm willing to take it." Depending on your dating style, you might look for another person who knows he or she has herpes, if only to avoid having to discuss it.
Now that you know you have genital herpes, you're out of the dating game, right? There's no reason to stop looking for love and fun.
Genital herpes doesn't detract from your many desirable qualities, which have drawn people to you in the past and will continue to make you a great catch. The first date after a genital herpes diagnosis may seem a little strange, however.
And it's important to understand that genital HSV is very common, affecting about 20% of the U. If you hope to be sexually intimate with your date at some point, you may feel like you're keeping a secret.
If you are one to be candid with people, you'll want to blurt it out. There are some things you should reveal about yourself right away -- for example, that you're married, or that you're just in town for the week -- but some things are better left for the appropriate moment.
It's up to you to decide the right time to tell a date that you have genital herpes.
Follow two rules: First, don't wait until after having sex.
Second, don't wait until you're just about to have sex -- in which case the attraction may be too strong for either of you to think rationally and act responsibly.
If in the past you tended to start a new relationship with sex, you now might want to change your approach.
It might be better to break the news about herpes to someone who has already grown attached to you.
Kissing, cuddling, and fondling are safe, so you don't have to tell before you do that.
But use your best judgment as to how physically intimate you want to get before telling.