I won't repeat the entire article here, but I do agree with the list of symptoms that the author lists in adult survivors:1.
A contempt for the same-sex parent who has been complicit in the covert incest; 5.
Difficulty in maintaining relationships, often seeking a "perfect" person for a partner, or an idealized partner that can never live up to one's expectations -- leaving that partner and finding another, thus continuing this impossible odyssey; 6.
Compulsions that can include workaholism or eating disorders or alcoholism; 7.
A direct link to sex addiction or sexual shutdown -- an objectified child usually has inappropriate sexual energy and the adult survivor, often uncomfortable "in his own skin," uses sexual addiction to self-medicate.
Only thing I would add is that sometimes #5 is just the opposite - Sometimes, because of low self esteem , we seek out a partner that we perceive to be just as messed up as we perceive ouselves to be; We're not "good enough" for anything better.
And sometimes it's a mixture of the two opposites - We alternate between seeking out someone as dysfunctional as we are, and holding it against them that they're not perfect.
“The most powerful ties are the ones to the people who gave us birth.
It hardly seems to matter how many years have passed, how many betrayals there may have been, how much misery in the family: We remain connected, even against our wills...
You make a grocery list every week, so why not do the same for your sex life?
"Be daring and spontaneous," says sexologist and podcast host Emily Morse.
Make a numbered list of the things you and your husband want to try and set a date for when you want to accomplish those goals by.