Now that we’re armed with what we like about her, and what she likes about herself, we’re ready for some good first message examples.
During your initial scan, you should be looking for pictures and phrases that stand out to you. It’s natural to be drawn in by big pretty eyes, long healthy hair, killer curves, or any number of other physical assets she has on display in her profile pictures.
The key to making it work, is to identify 1 thing you like most about her pictures. Next, scan what she’s written for something that stands out most to you. This statement is great, because it signals sexual interest, blames the outfit instead of her, and suggests that the one being seduced, which flips the script to allow her to flirt with you from a safe position.
If she’s written a lot on her profile, it should be easy enough to find something you like. A compliment or statement about her physical should always be accompanied by something non-physical.
If she’s a vanilla girl, who , it’s ok to project/cold read something more interesting onto her, or simply lean on physical cues for your first message. Typically, ammunition can be found in the first line of her dating profile.
Now that we’ve identified what we like, it’s time to identify what she likes about herself. If a women mentions her career or university in the opening line of her profile, you can bet that it’s important to her, and that she’s proud of it.
A girl with a dozen different full length mirror selfies, wearing various outfits & dresses, is leading with her sense of fashion. Other frequently seen first lines include a joke (girls who want to be fun/funny), or even red flags such as highly selective qualifiers, ie; “don’t message me unless you are XYZ”, or posturing, ie. Another way to identify what a woman really likes is to look for exclamation points, ie; “puppies!!
”, all capitals, ie; “GAME OF THRONES”, or repetition, such as talking about going to the ocean at both the beginning, and the end of her profile.
As a more challenging vanilla example though, let’s say she’s leading with a love of “shopping”.
that will get a response from the highest number of women online.