I’ve been putting off writing about the INFJ and compatibility in relationships for a while.Maybe it’s because I felt like it would be a little conceited to talk about how awesome INFJs are in relationships when I am one.Maybe it’s because pretty much every book out there says that INFJs do best with other intuitive types, and I’m married to a sensor. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that, like I’ve said before, I’m NOT a relationship expert and so I believe that (often) people take the MBTI too seriously in their relationships; using it as a reason to dislike or leave their partners, or to block out potential relationships that could be very positive.
Keep in Mind Like I always say, the MBTI can tell us where potential strengths and weaknesses lie, but it does not say ‘avoid this type / be with that type’.
There are pluses and minuses to any relationship, and people within a type can vary so much based on upbringing and environment.
Yes, intuitives and intuitives tend to ‘get’ each other better, and sensors and sensors tend to ‘get’ each other better.
However, you really can have a happy relationship with any type as long as you both do your best to be understanding and to work on balancing out your strengths and weaknesses.
Ideally, since we are always on a quest for personal growth, we want a partner who is seeking this same kind of personal or spiritual growth. We have plenty of our own weaknesses, of which many of us are highly aware.
We want to see the dark and light side of a person, not just the side you What INFJs are Like in Relationships I may have painted us to be quite a demanding group of people, and maybe you’re thinking “wow! Personal weaknesses are easily overlooked, but if you degrade or criticize one of our deeply held values it’s not likely to go so well.
As perfectionists, we INFJs work hard at our relationships to try to be the best we can be for our partner.
We aren’t perfect, that’s true, but we certainly do to be.
What INFJs Want In Relationships Is the perfect soulmate too much to ask for? One of the struggles of being an INFJ is that of being a true idealist and a perfectionist.