Why: Are they very involved with their family of origin?
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Why: You likely have a preference one way or the other. However it's good to know what you're getting yourself in for before you start to get attached to someone.
Why: Do they spend a lot of money or time collecting something? The answers to the above questions aren't necessarily deal breakers.
If you try to be too careful with what you say, this is likely to backfire.
Why: Whatever you're really passionate about, do they respect it? If you jump to an assumption that they have the same politics as you, they might feel too awkward to say that their politics are different. To take some of the pressure off during first dates, remind yourself: (a) that you each have 50% of the responsibility for how the conversation flows, and (b) you can only control how someone reacts to you to a limited extent.
This might not be important to you, but it might be. Why: The main point here is not to jump to assumptions about your date's politics. Why: If your date is exploring a relationship with someone else you might want to push pause at the end of your first date but offer them the opportunity to get back in touch with you if the other relationship doesn’t work out. Especially in the age of internet dating, people sometimes meet multiple people they’re interested in around the same time.
Why: This will tell you about your date’s preferences and also if they're someone who tends to reflect on experiences and can talk about their thoughts. Why: Tells you something about whether they seek out new experiences. What are your thoughts about the upcoming election (any upcoming election)?
by Jay Julio Women are extremely smart in the dating world. That's why you MUST know what these questions are — and the motivations behind them IF you not only want to succeed with women, but also not fall victim to their personal agendas. That's why they have these standard questions they ask men as soon as they get the chance.
They tend to have a set of dating questions they'll ask every man they begin seeing. These dating questions allow a woman to save time by getting the information about you she needs quickly... for the purpose of these questions is to figure out whether you can give a woman the benefits she's looking for — and which specific ones.
There aren’t hard and fast rules about what’s a good vs. Research has shown that the most effective communication style in relationships is a flexible one. Why: This is primarily relevant if you're either an extreme night or an extreme morning person.
The examples below are intended to stimulate your own ideas rather than as rules. Why: Is the person about to make any major life changes e.g., leave their 0K/year job to go back to school? Do they see it as a job, a vocation, or are they primarily motivated by climbing the career ladder?
Key goals of a first date are to (a) see if you have a connection, and (b) find out if you and your date have any major areas of incompatibility. Why: Does the person have strong feelings or are they more easygoing and with milder feelings.