We were dependent personalities -- terrified of abandonment -- willing to do almost anything to hold onto a relationship in order not to be abandoned emotionally.
Many of us found that we had several characteristics in common as a result of being brought up in an alcoholic household.
We had come to feel isolated, uneasy with other people, and especially authority figures.
To protect ourselves, we became people pleasers, even though we lost our own identities in the process.
All the same, we would mistake any personal criticism as a threat.
We either became alcoholics ourselves or married them or both.
Failing that, we found another compulsive personality, such as a workaholic, to fulfill our sick need for abandonment. Having an over-developed sense of responsibility, we preferred to be concerned with others rather than ourselves.We somehow got guilt feelings when we stood up for ourselves rather than giving in to others.Thus, we became reactors, rather than actors, letting others take the initiative. We offer a great place for youths to chat and hang out when they are bored or want to meet new friends. Also, come join an all new kids chat site Meet with hundreds of cool kids, youths and teens!The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.