Is it attracting the interest of couch potatoes, the chronically ill or the guys just looking for a little action?
If so, you are likely making at least one of the mistakes commonly made by women over 40 who are using online dating as their new discos. ) Unfortunately, all it takes is one major profile mistake to potentially sabotage any chance of finding love — or even a few good dates.
Some statistics show that for every man over 50, there are up to 5 women; over 60, ten women, and so on. The days of sitting back and waiting for anything incoming are over.
If you want to be noticed and rise to the top, it pays to create the best possible profile and keep it polished and shiny.
Because if it doesn’t catch his interest right away, it only takes a single click for him to find one that does.
The good news is that unlike a lot of things in life, your profile is easy to change and update.
And once you know how it is inadvertently turning off the men who are looking for a positive, fun connection, it’s really not that difficult.
Here are the top five profile mistakes common to women over 40, along with specific tips to make your profile more appealing and reflective of the best you. Your profile is your calling card, not a wish list.
Once you’ve hit your 40s and beyond, you kind of know what works for you and what doesn’t. If you do a good job describing yourself and painting a picture of what it feels like to be in a relationship with you, it will attract the right men and repel the wrong ones.
Many women use their profile as a list of their likes and dislikes. So focus more on what you have to offer, and less on what they can do for you.
I guarantee you’ll see the immediate payoff in the quality of men you attract. Here are some statements I see every day in women’s profiles: “I’ve waited so long for the right relationship and I hope it’s finally my time.” “I’m ready to be his everything.” “I’m looking for a relationship where we are totally devoted to each other.” While some of this may be true for you, it’s not something to put in a profile.
The man reads this as you having incredibly high expectations and reliance on your relationship for your happiness. If you wouldn’t say it on your first date, don’t write it in your profile. Women in their 40s, 50s and beyond are particularly guilty of this.
After all, you’ve probably accomplished a lot in your life without a man and are prepared to continue doing so.