On OKCupid (and sites with a similar rating system), rate every woman you see with 4-stars, then message any woman who quickmatches you.Your response rates will be higher if you message women who already see you on their quickmatch, and the more women you rate favorably, the more quickmatches you’ll receive.viewed it, even if they did not send me an opener when they did.
It’s not about response rates…it’s about whether or not you’re getting laid. It’s way too easy for guys to get hung up on response rates when the numbers you should be paying attention to are the ones that actually have to do with sex.
Such as: Those are the numbers I pay very close attention to.
Yes, I do track my response rates, but since all of those above numbers are so strong, I barely care these days what my response rates are.
For example, my first-dates-to-lay ratios these days are extremely high, sometimes as high as 100% for a single blitz of new openers. Many years ago when I was only having sex with one new woman per ten first dates, my response rate was very important to me, since I needed a hell of a lot of dates in order to get laid.
This all ties back to the great maxim of online dating, which is: You will never get laid with online dating if your real-life game sucks.
Its corollary is: The stronger your real-life game is, and the better your target market selection, the less results you need from online in order to have sex with new women.We’re going to talk about increasing your response rates now, but please keep in mind everything I just explained.Otherwise you’re going to waste a lot of time spinning your wheels on stupid online dating techniques that don’t work very well.1.I’ve talked before about how online dating response rates have decreased.While I have not radically changed anything I’m doing online (other than running my usual crazy experiments, some of them successful and some of them not), other guys out there are getting pretty damn creative in order to combat this response rate reduction.Before I get into some of the online dating tips these guys (and myself) have used to increase response, I have to repeat something I’ve said many times but still needs to be repeated.